In this series of six (6) key elements to have the right attitude in order to build successful relationships, we examine the importance of having a positive attitude to accomplish it and to better know you. We also look into how we see others, how frustration can be part of successful relationships. In the previous blog, we examined the different types of relationships and which one should be our first choice.

Now, the last element, but not the least that we are going to talk about is how to handle hurt that can occur when relating to others.

Whether it is a personal or professional relationship and whether you are well prepared or not in how to handle these situations, as we all know, it is difficult to avoid getting hurt when interacting with others.

However, what we can do is handling them in a positive way and turning them into tools towards successful relationships.

Have you been hurt in any type of relationship lately?

One of the many advantages of relating effectively to others is by adding value to them. Similarly, if you want to achieve something significant in your life, relating and working well with others is what allows you to accomplish team success and thus reach much higher levels of achievement.

As we conclude Part I of this topic, we can understand that a healthy relationship with team members is essential to create successful teams. Developing a healthy relationship is the beginning of every family, organization, business, or association.

As you relate to others, you are able to understand that some people value others and help them and that others only value themselves and obstruct everybody else’s progress.

How are you relating to others?

There is probably a situation at home that makes you feel tired and with a negative attitude. Maybe, you had a discussion at the office with your boos. Could be that one member of your team has made you feel stressed. Whatever the situation, having this feeling of frustration will not allow you to think clearly and may even be stagnating the objectives of your team. But, can we avoid frustration?

Not really. Frustration is an emotional response to an event that impacts us. It can be caused by different circumstances, some unexpected. While a person may be frustrated for some reason another may not and vice versa.

But in general, we cannot avoid being frustrated. Let’s examine how we can handle “frustration” and not allow it to interfere with the success of our teamwork and the common goal that we want to achieve.

What are those things that frustrate you in your team?

Have you ever been told that a color looks great on you and the first thing that comes to your mind is that it was a not very sincere compliment? Then, at the first chance you get, you go to the mirror to verify if that compliment was true or not? The way you view others is determined by who you are. What is your perception of the members of your team?

In the previous blog, I was pointing out how essential it is for all members of the team to develop the correct attitude towards relationships. Now let’s talk about how valuable it is to understand that “the way you see others is a reflection of yourself” and what can you do about it?

How do you perceive others?

Healthy relationships with others are indispensable in creating successful teams. As we concluded in Part I, no one can accomplish anything of significance on their own. We weren’t gifted with all the talents, strengths and capabilities. Further, it is a fact that the greatest triumphs were accomplished with a team. What can you do to improve your attitude towards relationships?

First, you must understand that it is necessary to develop the capability to better relate yourself.
Second, get to know yourself more. The image and awareness you have of yourself can take you very far in the relationships you have with others or it can restrict you from developing the capability to form healthy relationships.

This can simply happen because the image you have of yourself molds the way you think and act and therefore the way you relate to others.

As Napoleon Hill well said, “There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge”.

How can it benefit you to auto examine the image that you have of yourself?

It is a truth that nobody can achieve something significant alone. Lonely heroes only exist in Hollywood movies and it’s just a myth. People, in general, are brilliant, some in their ideas, others in their talents, in their capacities and strengths but no one can say that they know everything or can do everything. Success is designed to be achieved by a group of people. Do you want to achieve something significant in your life?

If so, you need to relate and work well with people. Beyond having a mutual vision and the desire to achieve a goal, a relationship with others is what allows you to achieve team success. Connecting well with others will take you to a much higher level of achievement.

If you look around you, we all belong to teams. A family is a team, as well as small or large businesses. If you look at those who have achieved great successes none of them did it alone. Although recognition is usually for an individual, the study of their achievements will let us see that there is a group of people behind their success.

What is your attitude towards relating positively to others?