Have you ever been told that a color looks great on you and the first thing that comes to your mind is that it was a not very sincere compliment? Then, at the first chance you get, you go to the mirror to verify if that compliment was true or not? The way you view others is determined by who you are. What is your perception of the members of your team?
In the previous blog, I was pointing out how essential it is for all members of the team to develop the correct attitude towards relationships. Now let’s talk about how valuable it is to understand that “the way you see others is a reflection of yourself” and what can you do about it?
How do you perceive others?
Examine this question in more detail and have some time for reflection. Observe your relationships with the members of your team and determine if:
- You trust them or, on the contrary, doubt what they do and why they do it;
- Criticize them for what they do or do not do;
- You are negative about them and the results they may have;
- You are interested in them and you think you can help them;
- You like to work as a team player or you prefer to work on your own.
The results will most likely let you know a lot more about yourself than those around you. How you see others is determined by the perspective you have of yourself; as well as how you view life and what you do.
What factors determine who you are? And how can you improve your relationships with your team?
You are the result of a group of elements that characterize you. Starting with your personality, the social and cultural environment in which you grew up. We cannot forget the genes you inherited, the experiences you have had in life, as well as the image you have of yourself. Furthermore, the most important elements such us your attitude, education, experience with other cultures, and your close friends or partners that surround you.
In recent years there has been a lot of talk about ‘Emotional Intelligence’ (EI) as a mechanism to manage emotions through self-awareness and self-control to improve our ability to relate successfully. As well as having ’empathy with others’ to develop better relationships. However, these topics seem to have too much controversy, as many consider that they are just another aspect of the personality.
Whether you develop what they call EI or have empathy towards others, I believe that in general, you can enrich your teamwork with successful relationships, if you increase intentionality in:
- Make the decision to improve relationships with others;
- Have a positive self-image;
- Create new experiences and leave behind the negative ones;
- Maintain a positive attitude towards difficult situations;
- Surround yourself with the right people who expand your mind and allow you to grow.
Having successful teams requires several key factors such as a clear and defined vision, functions, an action plan, commitment, leadership, individual and collective abilities, among others. However, none of those factors can give expected results if positive and successful relationships do not exist among team members.
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Question: How can you improve relationships with those around you every day?