There is probably a situation at home that makes you feel tired and with a negative attitude. Maybe, you had a discussion at the office with your boos. Could be that one member of your team has made you feel stressed. Whatever the situation, having this feeling of frustration will not allow you to think clearly and may even be stagnating the objectives of your team. But, can we avoid frustration?
Not really. Frustration is an emotional response to an event that impacts us. It can be caused by different circumstances, some unexpected. While a person may be frustrated for some reason another may not and vice versa.
But in general, we cannot avoid being frustrated. Let’s examine how we can handle “frustration” and not allow it to interfere with the success of our teamwork and the common goal that we want to achieve.
What are those things that frustrate you in your team?
Stop and think about these events or situations that frustrate you the most. Perhaps in some areas, you are very clear about it and you know who or what causes these feelings. In other areas, you may need a little more time to get to this point. Maybe you’re dissatisfied with something but you’re still not sure what it really is.
How have you successfully controlled frustration?
I imagine that on this subject you already have some experience and in the past, you have been able to maintain control of a frustrating situation.
Regardless of what area of your life you have successfully managed to control the frustration, remember that if you have achieved it in an area, you can apply it to other areas of your life.
Personally, I am more efficient at controlling frustration that can cause some material loss since I do not have much an attachment to material things, I think I have lost many umbrellas on rainy days; I forget them in taxis, stores, friends’ houses and I do not get frustrated because of it. While having to work with unpunctual people, well, this makes me want to run away.
For each person it’s different, but it’s important to establish what frustrates you.
I recently attended a talk given by Barbara Corcoran, a businesswoman, millionaire, and famous for her participation as an investor in the “Shark Tank” TV program, and it struck me that one of the secrets of success she shared was: “be grateful at failure.” Basically, she ensures that only those who have the ability to overcome frustration and failure quickly can achieve success. This reflection makes a lot of sense since the road to success is full of obstacles and adverse situations.
How to deal with frustration, overcome it and make it part of success? I would like to suggest some simple tips:
- Do not look for perfection in what you create, nor in those around you, it does not exist;
- If you need time to walk, take a deep breath, eat a piece of chocolate or have a coffee, take it to reduce tension and recharge energy;
- Do not expect things to go very well on the first attempt, keep trying until you reach excellence;
- Maintain a positive attitude in any situation and avoid thinking about failure, it is really just another challenge;
- Keep perspective towards what is being achieved and not what you have had to do to achieve it;
- Convert frustration and failure into the experience; reflect on it, what is the lesson for you and your team?;
- Focus on the factors that delay better results, avoid excuses in accepting what happened and take immediate action to correct them.
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Question: How can you use frustration in a positive way?